Massage Therapy
Sexological Bodywork
Sex Coach

By and for queer and trans folks.

Love your body, Trust your body, Enjoy your body

Queer Somatics offers massage and coaching by and for queer, trans and questioning folks, aiming to offer a space where you can explore connecting with your body, and experience rest and pleasure as the radical queer healing forces that they are. A place to re-claim your body as home. Wherever you are located in the LGTQIA+ galaxies, in working together I aim to create a healing space of radical acceptance of all the amazing tender or messy aspects of you so you can love, trust and enjoy your body more and more. Living aligned with the needs of your body, supporting its wellbeing and experiencing greater ease, pleasure and rest.

Coaching and bodywork specialities

My primary specialties are:

Preparation and integration related to gender-affirming surgeries
including preparing for surgery, pre-operative massage, post-operative massage and scar tissue treatment, increasing erotic pleasure capacity and getting to know changing genitals.
Embodiment while navigating sex and intimacy
including working with sexual difficulties, pain, communicating desires and setting boundaries.
Sex and intimacy challenges in relationships
including sexual difficulties, desire differences and navigating dynamics around polyamory or monogamy

Below you’ll find an overview of ways I work or you can jump straight to the overviews of sex coaching and sexological bodywork or queer massage.

Getting to know the possibilities

At its core, the foundation of my work is about (re-)claiming bodily agency; connecting to our body and our wisdom (also known as embodiment). Many of us in the LGBTQIA+ galaxy find ourselves disconnected from our body. My hope is to support others in reclaiming the birthright of the body as home.

In my work, I draw from different modalities including: Somatic Coaching, Yoga therapy, Massage therapy and Sexological bodywork. Below you can see three key elements which are present in varying degrees depending on the modality.

3 elements which combine in different amounts.

Click the plus button to the right of each modality to read about what it is and common topics it is used for.

Somatic coaching tends to center the body as a source of knowing and source of change. This approach will combine explorations of the body drawing from mindful yoga practices and reflecting on them in dialogue.
Common topics include
- Live, relate, and/or communicate from a place of authenticity
- Develop greater awareness,comfort and ease in your body
- Understand and shift automatic behaviour patterns
- Increase ability to regulate nervous system
- Identify and reach goals
- Make changes/decisions in life
- Gain insight into challenging situations
- Other life, relational or career challenges
Yoga therapy tends to center applying mindful yoga and compassion based practices for physical, mental and/or spiritual wellness. Practices may include movement, breathwork, relaxation, meditation and more. It is tailored to the client including their body and health goals.
Common topics include
- Support with pain, sleep difficulty, fatigue, (chronic) illness, injury or surgery recovery, decreasing stiffness and increasing functional mobility
- Stress management, anxiety and resilience building
- Improve relationship with body
- Find a yoga or mindfulness that is accessible and practical for you and your health and wellness challenges/goals
Sexological bodywork centers one-way client-directed touch in service of your learning intentions. It also includes somatic coaching and mindful yoga practices.
Common topics include
- Deepening understanding of pleasure, arousal, orgasm
- Deepening understanding of what you do or don’t want and how to get it
- (Re-)discovering your body during or after changes including gender transition
- De-armouring
- Scar tissue therapy
- Unwind shame around your body or desires
- Explore areas of reduced sensation or numbness
- Practicing consent and boundaries
- Exploring anal and/or genital pleasure
- Integrate your yoga, mindfulness and erotic practices in ways that serve you
Queer and trans-affirming massage. The boundaries and intention of the session will always be agreed upon in advance.
Commonly massage topics include:
- Promoting relaxation
- Relieving specific areas of bodily tension or discomfort
- Scar tissue treatment
- Getting to know your body better
- Releasing held stress from the body
I offer private retreats tailored to your goals and desires for individuals and / or partners at my studio located in Haarlem, The Netherlands.

In reality, the elements and modalities sometimes converge and overlap. When working together, you are always at choice and able to choose how much or little of each element to include to best serve your intentions and goals.

The first step is a consultation. You can schedule a free 30m online consultation during which we can discuss your goals and intentions and the available options for working together that meet you where you are at this moment.